If you have been following me on social media or know me personally, by now you know that my life has gotten a little more exciting lately... and I'm not exactly single anymore.
After the excitement dies down, the next question many of my friends are asking is, "what about your blog?"
Well, It isn't going anywhere... There will definitely be some changes in the near future, but my message and passions are still the same. I've spent an important time in my life single, and I still have words to share on the subject with all my faithfuls who may still be going through this season of life. Having said that, I hope you will forgive me if I stray a little and share some from my new adventures!
I realize this is more of a mini-post life update, but I've already posted more this month than any other month since my blog went live! ... maybe I can keep it up and you will hear from me more often!
Thanks for all the encouragement and prayers you have sent my way. I hope you realize how much I cherish each and every one of you! This blog wouldn't be as meaningful or successful without your feedback and encouragement through this process.
Just in case you were keeping track - POST # 12!!!! and between those 12 posts, the blog has been read over 1300 times! Thanks again for the support, and as always, I'm praying for you!
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Thursday, August 29, 2013
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Be Vulnerable... What?
My baby sister and I have this song, one of the few we can agree on. It tells the story of pride and independence giving way to humility, although I haven't always looked at it that way. Sure, I can see the beauty of surrender in this song and the welcome abandon with which the singer asks God to restore him. I noticed something else about this song, a vulnerability...
The Song: (and my prayer for us) Hurricane by Jimmy Needham
Lyrics:
I have built a city here
Half with pride and half with fear
Just wanted a safer place to hide
I don't want to be safe tonight
[Chorus]
I need You like a hurricane
Thunder crashing, wind and rain
To tear my walls down
I'm only Yours now
I need you like a burning flame
A wild fire untamed
To burn these walls down
I'm only Yours now
I'm only Yours now
I am Yours and You are mine
You know far better than I
And if destruction's what I need
Then I'll receive it Lord from Thee
Yes, I'll receive it Lord from Thee
For the remaining lyrics click here.
Several years ago a wise woman sat me down in her living room just as I was heading off to a new job and told me, "Kristy, you have to be vulnerable. Let others in." (or something like that) This woman began to explain to me how hard it was to get to know me. I didn't realize but my face could be quite unreadable. You might tell me that the room is on fire and my face would be impassive. Ok, slight exaggeration... but ultimately, I was making it harder for others to get to know me. I wasn't be expressive, and I was censoring everything that came out of my mouth. It took her months to get to know me, to understand me. Most people wouldn't have taken that long.
Ultimately, I've come to realize that I was afraid of rejection, of being hurt. So I hid away parts of myself. This woman told me that at my new job I was going to need to be vulnerable to get to know others and that it was okay to ask for help, to not have it all together, all the time.
I'm not sure exactly when it began or why, but sometime during my teens I became a very introspective person. I think there were even times my parents didn't fully understand me, and I didn't even realize that I was the one that was making it difficult. I kept so much to myself, my sorrows, my fears, even my dreams. Over time I shared little pieces of myself with my family, but my friends still didn't get the whole picture. This only made it easier to move and start over time and again. It wasn't until the earlier mentioned conversation at the end of my college days that I realized I was making it harder for myself.
Months later as I was getting ready for my new teaching job and adjusting to a new school, those words echoed in my mind, be vulnerable. I started letting people in, asking for help, sharing information about my life, and trying to be real with them. This is something I still struggle with today. So, what does this have to do with being single? being a Christian?
I was reminded of this recently as I began a new relationship. If you are like me and have walled away your heart, even if to protect yourself, you may be missing out God's plan for your life. As a single person, we can't be afraid of the fall or failure. Put yourself out there. I'm not saying take unreasonable risks or go crazy, but give people a shot. It is easy when you have spent a lot of time alone to just continue that comfortable way of life and stay alone. Maybe you have spent most of your life hopping from relationship to relationship; give your heart time to heal. Then get back on that horse and try again.
As Christians, we are called to worship, to surrender our lives to God, to live a life of holiness and sacrifice, to honor and glorify Him. This is impossible if we don't let down our guard, get out of our comfort zone, and live our life in this sinful world, doing our best to let others see Jesus in us. So I ask, are you hiding in plain sight? Are you hurting? scared? alone? You don't have to be, and you definitely don't have to do this alone. God will be with you every step of the way, and if you seek it out, God will reveal your own wise friend to see you through this trial or season of your life. Don't be afraid to be the REAL you and be vulnerable.
The Song: (and my prayer for us) Hurricane by Jimmy Needham
Lyrics:
I have built a city here
Half with pride and half with fear
Just wanted a safer place to hide
I don't want to be safe tonight
[Chorus]
I need You like a hurricane
Thunder crashing, wind and rain
To tear my walls down
I'm only Yours now
I need you like a burning flame
A wild fire untamed
To burn these walls down
I'm only Yours now
I'm only Yours now
I am Yours and You are mine
You know far better than I
And if destruction's what I need
Then I'll receive it Lord from Thee
Yes, I'll receive it Lord from Thee
For the remaining lyrics click here.
Several years ago a wise woman sat me down in her living room just as I was heading off to a new job and told me, "Kristy, you have to be vulnerable. Let others in." (or something like that) This woman began to explain to me how hard it was to get to know me. I didn't realize but my face could be quite unreadable. You might tell me that the room is on fire and my face would be impassive. Ok, slight exaggeration... but ultimately, I was making it harder for others to get to know me. I wasn't be expressive, and I was censoring everything that came out of my mouth. It took her months to get to know me, to understand me. Most people wouldn't have taken that long.
Ultimately, I've come to realize that I was afraid of rejection, of being hurt. So I hid away parts of myself. This woman told me that at my new job I was going to need to be vulnerable to get to know others and that it was okay to ask for help, to not have it all together, all the time.
I'm not sure exactly when it began or why, but sometime during my teens I became a very introspective person. I think there were even times my parents didn't fully understand me, and I didn't even realize that I was the one that was making it difficult. I kept so much to myself, my sorrows, my fears, even my dreams. Over time I shared little pieces of myself with my family, but my friends still didn't get the whole picture. This only made it easier to move and start over time and again. It wasn't until the earlier mentioned conversation at the end of my college days that I realized I was making it harder for myself.
Months later as I was getting ready for my new teaching job and adjusting to a new school, those words echoed in my mind, be vulnerable. I started letting people in, asking for help, sharing information about my life, and trying to be real with them. This is something I still struggle with today. So, what does this have to do with being single? being a Christian?
I was reminded of this recently as I began a new relationship. If you are like me and have walled away your heart, even if to protect yourself, you may be missing out God's plan for your life. As a single person, we can't be afraid of the fall or failure. Put yourself out there. I'm not saying take unreasonable risks or go crazy, but give people a shot. It is easy when you have spent a lot of time alone to just continue that comfortable way of life and stay alone. Maybe you have spent most of your life hopping from relationship to relationship; give your heart time to heal. Then get back on that horse and try again.
As Christians, we are called to worship, to surrender our lives to God, to live a life of holiness and sacrifice, to honor and glorify Him. This is impossible if we don't let down our guard, get out of our comfort zone, and live our life in this sinful world, doing our best to let others see Jesus in us. So I ask, are you hiding in plain sight? Are you hurting? scared? alone? You don't have to be, and you definitely don't have to do this alone. God will be with you every step of the way, and if you seek it out, God will reveal your own wise friend to see you through this trial or season of your life. Don't be afraid to be the REAL you and be vulnerable.
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
So much has happened....
So much has happened since my last post, and I've had several conversations with my self about what to write next. (does it sound less creepy if those conversations were inaudible?) Despite these ideas, I've yet to sit down and actually write, sorry!
As for the end of February and beginning of March, I was in the middle of wedding plans. One of my younger sisters married the man of her dreams a little over a month ago. I can't help but think of the irony. My last relationship ended 10 years ago the week she got married. The Lord really does have a sense of humor. I can't wait to laugh about all this when I'm sitting with Him in heaven. I would also like for Him to explain so many of the scientific mysteries we ponder here on Earth. There is so much about this world I don't understand, but there is so much about this world that is divinely planned. In my line of work as a science teacher, I frequently run across the wonders of our world and am reminded of His awesomeness. However, my students will be the first to tell you that I do not profess to know everything nor do I expect to understand everything. I'm content knowing that my God is in control and that He made the beautiful world we live in. Yet, so many of us are driven to question everything around us, including the life events and trials we face, tragedies like the bombing yesterday that bring us to our knees again.
We are human, mere babies in the eyes of God. We've lived just a short time and there is so much we don't understand, not to mention the fact that we think we know everything and act like we have it all under control. Sound familiar? Have you said that about a younger sibling? young cousin? neighborhood teen? yourself?
I don't profess to know why the bombing happened yesterday or why you are facing trials, whether they be singleness, loneliness, family issues, or something else entirely. However, I do know that trials are when we grow closer to God. Without trials and temptations we would be spoiled little children, receiving everything we want, when we want, exactly as requested, not the humble, serving children of God. We are HIS and He is watching over each and every one of us. Should I join Him tomorrow, I know my family and friends would grieve, but like so many before me, I would be where I belong, in the arms of my GOD. I was made to enjoy his presence and to glorify Him with every fiber of my being. Every moment on this Earth, I'm getting closer to the eternity where I will be praising and glorifying my heavenly Father forever.
So often we worry about the little things, the grades due tomorrow (yep I procrastinated... still working on them), what we will wear or say, how we will spend our earthly days, why something happened, and we miss the big picture entirely. We are HIS. Our heavenly Father is going to take care of us, if we simply let Him and follow his lead. No matter what temptation or trial you find yourself facing today, remember we are the children of a mighty God and He just wants you to glorify Him with your earthly life until it is time to join Him.
As for the end of February and beginning of March, I was in the middle of wedding plans. One of my younger sisters married the man of her dreams a little over a month ago. I can't help but think of the irony. My last relationship ended 10 years ago the week she got married. The Lord really does have a sense of humor. I can't wait to laugh about all this when I'm sitting with Him in heaven. I would also like for Him to explain so many of the scientific mysteries we ponder here on Earth. There is so much about this world I don't understand, but there is so much about this world that is divinely planned. In my line of work as a science teacher, I frequently run across the wonders of our world and am reminded of His awesomeness. However, my students will be the first to tell you that I do not profess to know everything nor do I expect to understand everything. I'm content knowing that my God is in control and that He made the beautiful world we live in. Yet, so many of us are driven to question everything around us, including the life events and trials we face, tragedies like the bombing yesterday that bring us to our knees again.
We are human, mere babies in the eyes of God. We've lived just a short time and there is so much we don't understand, not to mention the fact that we think we know everything and act like we have it all under control. Sound familiar? Have you said that about a younger sibling? young cousin? neighborhood teen? yourself?
I don't profess to know why the bombing happened yesterday or why you are facing trials, whether they be singleness, loneliness, family issues, or something else entirely. However, I do know that trials are when we grow closer to God. Without trials and temptations we would be spoiled little children, receiving everything we want, when we want, exactly as requested, not the humble, serving children of God. We are HIS and He is watching over each and every one of us. Should I join Him tomorrow, I know my family and friends would grieve, but like so many before me, I would be where I belong, in the arms of my GOD. I was made to enjoy his presence and to glorify Him with every fiber of my being. Every moment on this Earth, I'm getting closer to the eternity where I will be praising and glorifying my heavenly Father forever.
So often we worry about the little things, the grades due tomorrow (yep I procrastinated... still working on them), what we will wear or say, how we will spend our earthly days, why something happened, and we miss the big picture entirely. We are HIS. Our heavenly Father is going to take care of us, if we simply let Him and follow his lead. No matter what temptation or trial you find yourself facing today, remember we are the children of a mighty God and He just wants you to glorify Him with your earthly life until it is time to join Him.
Monday, February 18, 2013
How was your Valentine's Day?
The dreaded Valentine's Day... So if you are like many singles out there, you probably dislike this day as much as my students do a test... maybe even more! Mine wasn't really that bad. A couple of my students did try my patience, insisting that my life wasn't complete without a significant other. Sadly, teenagers aren't the only ones who believe a person must be in a relationship to be happy.
Well, my happiness isn't tied to my relationships, or my finances, or my possessions... I could go on. As a Christian, my happiness and peace are just a prayer away; they should come from God. That being said, I'm human. There are days when I long for a significant other, a family of my own, a finished home (renovations will never end!), a larger saving account, a soaking tub, or new shoes! Again, this list could be endless. Satan will try whatever he can to take away our contentment, and believe me, he has a way of figuring out your weakness and hitting you there.
This weekend, Satan got mine. I have been doing well; I haven't been dwelling on what I do not have. The last month I have been staying extremely busy and, as a byproduct, staying out of trouble. It is hard to explain, but this past month my mind has been clearer. I have had a renewed sense of purpose and productivity, despite being a little overworked. It all ended this weekend. Satan got me during one of my few down moments and hit me hard. Like I said before, he knows our weaknesses and he couldn't stand the fact that the Lord and I were spending more time together. Satan really hates when we get our act together and we start molding into the person God wants us to be.
Needless to say, my Sunday started off with me on a very sour note. I couldn't seem to enjoy worship and everything seemed to aggravate me. I had several discussions with the Lord over my moodiness and regret for my weakness but couldn't seem to shake my melancholiness. So, I just championed through. I have classes to teach, music to play, people to see, and lots of things to do. I have no time for self pity or melancholiness. 24 hours after my moody spell, I seem to be returning to my normal self. I still have some work to do to reestablish the connection the Lord and I have been sharing these last few weeks, but it is still there.
I want to challenge you to let yourself explore the relationship you can have with God, the needs only He can fill. Lately, the Lord and I have had some really cool jam sessions. (If my dogs could talk, they would definitely agree that these session should remain private and give a whole new meaning to making a joyful noise.) I've been reconnecting with some of my creativity and past times I have enjoyed, yet don't seem to have the time for anymore. The Lord is helping me rediscover the meaning in my life, despite the fact I keep messing with His life lessons. However, He keeps teaching me just as He will you, if you let Him... let yourself become distracted with the plans He has for you and see where He takes you... I promise they are better than whatever you are trying to plan for yourself. It can't hurt to try. Go ahead, you know you want to!!
WAIT, are you still stuck on the how? That is a valid reason to hold back, but start with spending time with your creator. For me (and the ADHD kids inside me) I start with music... which leads to worship. For you maybe it is reading, talking, teaching, creating, crafting, artsy things, quiet relaxation... Find what works for you. What allows you to connect with God? Sometimes its all mental with me. Just talking to Him in my head, bouncing ideas or thoughts around. At other times, I'm vocal and talk as if He is in the room (which He is!!). There is no one answer for how to start spending time with Him. Find a place or activity where you are comfortable and can let your mind roam. Let Him focus your thoughts, meditate on them. For me, sometimes I wonder if I am really thinking up this crazy plan for Bible study or youth program or if it is God's plan. My rule of thumb, sit on it. (not sit on your actual thumb, silly!) Wait a little while, if it is of God, He'll show you, somehow. Sometimes I can't seem to forget about it (in a good way) and I take it as a sign to move forward with the idea. I share it with others, gage their feedback. Sometimes at this point, I can see God working through them to help me pull off something. It is a wonderful feeling to be used by God, but it all starts by connecting with Him.
I know this post may ramble a bit, but I wanted to share my thoughts and trials as of late. Feel free to post. (correct my bad grammar even!) I'm curious if this brings up more questions or whatever... (can you tell I'm getting tired. It has been a long day.)
Until the Lord moves again,
Kristy
Well, my happiness isn't tied to my relationships, or my finances, or my possessions... I could go on. As a Christian, my happiness and peace are just a prayer away; they should come from God. That being said, I'm human. There are days when I long for a significant other, a family of my own, a finished home (renovations will never end!), a larger saving account, a soaking tub, or new shoes! Again, this list could be endless. Satan will try whatever he can to take away our contentment, and believe me, he has a way of figuring out your weakness and hitting you there.
This weekend, Satan got mine. I have been doing well; I haven't been dwelling on what I do not have. The last month I have been staying extremely busy and, as a byproduct, staying out of trouble. It is hard to explain, but this past month my mind has been clearer. I have had a renewed sense of purpose and productivity, despite being a little overworked. It all ended this weekend. Satan got me during one of my few down moments and hit me hard. Like I said before, he knows our weaknesses and he couldn't stand the fact that the Lord and I were spending more time together. Satan really hates when we get our act together and we start molding into the person God wants us to be.
Needless to say, my Sunday started off with me on a very sour note. I couldn't seem to enjoy worship and everything seemed to aggravate me. I had several discussions with the Lord over my moodiness and regret for my weakness but couldn't seem to shake my melancholiness. So, I just championed through. I have classes to teach, music to play, people to see, and lots of things to do. I have no time for self pity or melancholiness. 24 hours after my moody spell, I seem to be returning to my normal self. I still have some work to do to reestablish the connection the Lord and I have been sharing these last few weeks, but it is still there.
I want to challenge you to let yourself explore the relationship you can have with God, the needs only He can fill. Lately, the Lord and I have had some really cool jam sessions. (If my dogs could talk, they would definitely agree that these session should remain private and give a whole new meaning to making a joyful noise.) I've been reconnecting with some of my creativity and past times I have enjoyed, yet don't seem to have the time for anymore. The Lord is helping me rediscover the meaning in my life, despite the fact I keep messing with His life lessons. However, He keeps teaching me just as He will you, if you let Him... let yourself become distracted with the plans He has for you and see where He takes you... I promise they are better than whatever you are trying to plan for yourself. It can't hurt to try. Go ahead, you know you want to!!
WAIT, are you still stuck on the how? That is a valid reason to hold back, but start with spending time with your creator. For me (and the ADHD kids inside me) I start with music... which leads to worship. For you maybe it is reading, talking, teaching, creating, crafting, artsy things, quiet relaxation... Find what works for you. What allows you to connect with God? Sometimes its all mental with me. Just talking to Him in my head, bouncing ideas or thoughts around. At other times, I'm vocal and talk as if He is in the room (which He is!!). There is no one answer for how to start spending time with Him. Find a place or activity where you are comfortable and can let your mind roam. Let Him focus your thoughts, meditate on them. For me, sometimes I wonder if I am really thinking up this crazy plan for Bible study or youth program or if it is God's plan. My rule of thumb, sit on it. (not sit on your actual thumb, silly!) Wait a little while, if it is of God, He'll show you, somehow. Sometimes I can't seem to forget about it (in a good way) and I take it as a sign to move forward with the idea. I share it with others, gage their feedback. Sometimes at this point, I can see God working through them to help me pull off something. It is a wonderful feeling to be used by God, but it all starts by connecting with Him.
I know this post may ramble a bit, but I wanted to share my thoughts and trials as of late. Feel free to post. (correct my bad grammar even!) I'm curious if this brings up more questions or whatever... (can you tell I'm getting tired. It has been a long day.)
Until the Lord moves again,
Kristy
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
The Price of Sacrifice
Do you know what is means to sacrifice something? I bet you have made a sacrifice and let someone have the last morsel at Christmas or sacrificed a few moments and held the door open for someone.
Yet we are reminded of the ultimate sacrifice... Christ on a cross. I read some of Leslie Ludy's Sacred Singleness over the holidays. In one section she references Corrie ten Boom who says that many people walk around with self in their hearts, leaving Christ on that cross instead of Christ in our hearts and self on the cross. I was reminded of this may times over the holidays as we exchange gifts and catch up with friends and family. How often do we seek out things because of selfish desires and leave Christ on the cross? When did a promotion, a new phone or car, better house, nice clothes or shoes, or a spouse become so important that we put Christ on a cross and left self in the driver's seat?
Did the last part catch you? Have you been hung up on finding someone to share your life with that you were going out of your way to catch someone's eye? I know I have caught myself in the past fussing over clothes or hair when I thought a potential date might be in attendance. Then I feel miserable like I mentioned in the last post. My mind knows that this isn't how I'm supposed to live. However, our world seems to be telling us we have to have someone and fast!, that we can't buy a house as a single person (wait I already did that!) or that we can't live to 26 as a single (done that too!). Our world, even some of the Christian world want us to focus on finding just the right person to share our lives with instead of fulfilling our need to have Christ first in our lives. The Christian world even attempts to mask this by focusing on finding a good Christian guy, but in reality if Christ isn't first, we have missed the mark.
Leslie Ludy even counters this attitude by focusing on the fact that God is indeed a jealous God and there are countless examples in the Bible where God preferred us to be single and focused on Him rather than to be paired off and focused so much on the people around us that He gets left out. Is God first in your life? Are you seeking a potential mate more than you are seeking your Creator?
I'm learning to let God fill my life instead of focusing on all the things I want or think I need. Try it. Turn to God, pour out your heart to Him the next time you feel like turning to a person on this earth. Let God fulfill his promise to be your everything... this is a slow process, especially if you are used to having the world meet your needs. It is also a daily act of surrender, a small price to pay for the sacrifice given on our behalf.
Yet we are reminded of the ultimate sacrifice... Christ on a cross. I read some of Leslie Ludy's Sacred Singleness over the holidays. In one section she references Corrie ten Boom who says that many people walk around with self in their hearts, leaving Christ on that cross instead of Christ in our hearts and self on the cross. I was reminded of this may times over the holidays as we exchange gifts and catch up with friends and family. How often do we seek out things because of selfish desires and leave Christ on the cross? When did a promotion, a new phone or car, better house, nice clothes or shoes, or a spouse become so important that we put Christ on a cross and left self in the driver's seat?
Did the last part catch you? Have you been hung up on finding someone to share your life with that you were going out of your way to catch someone's eye? I know I have caught myself in the past fussing over clothes or hair when I thought a potential date might be in attendance. Then I feel miserable like I mentioned in the last post. My mind knows that this isn't how I'm supposed to live. However, our world seems to be telling us we have to have someone and fast!, that we can't buy a house as a single person (wait I already did that!) or that we can't live to 26 as a single (done that too!). Our world, even some of the Christian world want us to focus on finding just the right person to share our lives with instead of fulfilling our need to have Christ first in our lives. The Christian world even attempts to mask this by focusing on finding a good Christian guy, but in reality if Christ isn't first, we have missed the mark.
Leslie Ludy even counters this attitude by focusing on the fact that God is indeed a jealous God and there are countless examples in the Bible where God preferred us to be single and focused on Him rather than to be paired off and focused so much on the people around us that He gets left out. Is God first in your life? Are you seeking a potential mate more than you are seeking your Creator?
I'm learning to let God fill my life instead of focusing on all the things I want or think I need. Try it. Turn to God, pour out your heart to Him the next time you feel like turning to a person on this earth. Let God fulfill his promise to be your everything... this is a slow process, especially if you are used to having the world meet your needs. It is also a daily act of surrender, a small price to pay for the sacrifice given on our behalf.
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Getting the Christmas blues....
"God has made us for Himself, and our hearts can never know rest and perfect satisfaction until they find it in Him." ~ Hanah Hurnard
I don't know about you, but the holidays came on way too fast this year. I've found myself extremely busy and with a long to-do list. It doesn't help that school doesn't let out until TODAY, leaving me with 3 days to get my house ready for a Christmas party! Luckily I have great sisters who are going to help!
So, these last few days, I've found myself riding the emotional rollercoaster. It all started when I settled in with a good book the other day. Why do all books seem to focus on finding prince charming? No matter how much I try to focus on the great story and the characters, I seem to get sucked into the love story. Next comes the inability to think about other things and, in the case, I couldn't wait to read the next book in the series. I lasted less than eight hour and dove back in to the next book. I know I just complained about not having enough time to get ready for holidays and I find myself stuck in a book... and the self loathing began. It is times like this when I find myself reevaluating the things that take up my time. How much of them would the Lord approve of? Am I glorifying him? Isn't that my purpose in life? OH, the questions that fill my brain faster than I can answer.
This quote keeps coming back to mind - "God has made us for Himself, and our hearts can never know rest and perfect satisfaction until they find it in Him."
It definitely is ringing true lately. I don't seem to be satisfied with much of anything that doesn't include Him, and sometimes that hasn't worked lately. To top matters off, we lost two member of my church congregation this week in non related events. The loss is there, but I also know that both of them were ready to meet our God. They had this peace about them, this I'm going home feeling. Sometimes, I envy that feeling. here I am stuck on this Earth surrounding by so much that I can't change. For me, seeing hurt students day in and day out, not to mention the hurt I've observed in my own life. It is draining. Serving God can be draining. Dealing with all the people at Christmas can be draining.
So, what are we to do? Well, I'm drawn back to the quote, especially the part that says we can find rest in HIM! I know I've heard this echoed all throughout the Bible. He IS our strength, but sometimes I find myself rolling around in a lake of self pity and creating the excuses and complaints. Which brings me back to, what do we do? Well, we let Him bring us peace.
Peace... such a beautiful word, so calming and full of hope. All we have to do is reach out and it can be ours for the taking. So I go through my mental checklist.
1. Did you have a quiet time?
2. How often did you talk to God today? actually stop and talk with Him!
3. Did I acknowledge His power over my life? Surrender everything to Him again? Is there something I'm holding back.
At this point, if I'm still not at peace by spending time with my Lord, I spend some more time with Him! My time with Him can be anything from joyful-noise-really LOUD worship (obnoxious piano included) where I just let it all out through worship to something more somber like reading His word or devotional book or writing in my journal. It really doesn't matter what you do as long as you are opening yourself up to communicate with Him. Just remember communication is a two way street, make sure you stop once and awhile to let Him speak to you. Block the world out and just be silent..
So, in the midst of all the Christmas cheer (or blues!), let the Lord in to soothe or rejuvenate your spirit. Call out to Him and He will answer, just make sure that you are listening for His answer!
I don't know about you, but the holidays came on way too fast this year. I've found myself extremely busy and with a long to-do list. It doesn't help that school doesn't let out until TODAY, leaving me with 3 days to get my house ready for a Christmas party! Luckily I have great sisters who are going to help!
So, these last few days, I've found myself riding the emotional rollercoaster. It all started when I settled in with a good book the other day. Why do all books seem to focus on finding prince charming? No matter how much I try to focus on the great story and the characters, I seem to get sucked into the love story. Next comes the inability to think about other things and, in the case, I couldn't wait to read the next book in the series. I lasted less than eight hour and dove back in to the next book. I know I just complained about not having enough time to get ready for holidays and I find myself stuck in a book... and the self loathing began. It is times like this when I find myself reevaluating the things that take up my time. How much of them would the Lord approve of? Am I glorifying him? Isn't that my purpose in life? OH, the questions that fill my brain faster than I can answer.
This quote keeps coming back to mind - "God has made us for Himself, and our hearts can never know rest and perfect satisfaction until they find it in Him."
It definitely is ringing true lately. I don't seem to be satisfied with much of anything that doesn't include Him, and sometimes that hasn't worked lately. To top matters off, we lost two member of my church congregation this week in non related events. The loss is there, but I also know that both of them were ready to meet our God. They had this peace about them, this I'm going home feeling. Sometimes, I envy that feeling. here I am stuck on this Earth surrounding by so much that I can't change. For me, seeing hurt students day in and day out, not to mention the hurt I've observed in my own life. It is draining. Serving God can be draining. Dealing with all the people at Christmas can be draining.
So, what are we to do? Well, I'm drawn back to the quote, especially the part that says we can find rest in HIM! I know I've heard this echoed all throughout the Bible. He IS our strength, but sometimes I find myself rolling around in a lake of self pity and creating the excuses and complaints. Which brings me back to, what do we do? Well, we let Him bring us peace.
Peace... such a beautiful word, so calming and full of hope. All we have to do is reach out and it can be ours for the taking. So I go through my mental checklist.
1. Did you have a quiet time?
2. How often did you talk to God today? actually stop and talk with Him!
3. Did I acknowledge His power over my life? Surrender everything to Him again? Is there something I'm holding back.
At this point, if I'm still not at peace by spending time with my Lord, I spend some more time with Him! My time with Him can be anything from joyful-noise-really LOUD worship (obnoxious piano included) where I just let it all out through worship to something more somber like reading His word or devotional book or writing in my journal. It really doesn't matter what you do as long as you are opening yourself up to communicate with Him. Just remember communication is a two way street, make sure you stop once and awhile to let Him speak to you. Block the world out and just be silent..
So, in the midst of all the Christmas cheer (or blues!), let the Lord in to soothe or rejuvenate your spirit. Call out to Him and He will answer, just make sure that you are listening for His answer!
Saturday, December 15, 2012
How to survive the holidays as a single person...
My second post has been a long time in coming but not for lack of ideas. Over the last several weeks I have been sifting through my thought trying to decide what to pen, but nothing seemed quite right. This morning it hit me, right in the middle of a lazy saturday morning crocheting a Christmas present.
How to survive the holidays as a single person...
Just in case you haven't noticed, the holidays seem to be the time you are asked most often "Why you are still single?" Well, that is unless you work with pre-teens who don't filter their thoughts. If this is the case, you may get asked more often. Just this week a former student, now a ninth grader, couldn't seem to grasp the fact that I was still single and told me I needed to get married. Like most people, he seemed to think it was something I could fix quite easily by just getting married... if only.
Marriage and dating are something I would like to take part in, but I'm not settling for just anyone. um... I may even have a list... :) ... I kind of started out as a joke, but then it turned serious. I thought of things I really do want like personality traits or characteristics I would like in a mate. Now, I'm a planner and I know the Lord is probably laughing his head off at my list. However, knowing what I want (and what I believe the Lord wants for me) has helped me not to settle for someone who isn't the ONE the Lord has created for me. As for my list, some things are just plain funny, but when it comes to faith, I know I want a man who can lead the household, spiritually. I've joked with my youth students before and said that I teach children all day and I don't want to come home to a man that I have to teach, too.
In all seriousness, we Christians have to be careful to follow the Lord's lead and not settle for just anyone. Hold true to God's promises and be patient. Now, I know this isn't always easy to hear, especially this time of year. However, if there is one thing I know for sure, His timing is perfect and you wouldn't want to interfere with the great things He has planned for you. I have to keep reminding myself of this very fact; especially when I'm tempted to take matters into my own hands.
How do I do it? How do I survive this time of year as a single?
For starters, don't look at yourself and see something (or someone) missing. You have plenty of people in your life that want to love you, and I'm sure there are some waiting on some love themselves. I start with my family. I have two little sisters that I have been mothering practically from the womb. I've always been the bossy big sister, just ask them... :) Being single allows me to spend extra time with them by having girl nights, traveling with them, and making them feel special. As for the rest of my family, parents and grandparents get lots of loving from me too! I have the free time to drop by and have dinner; who doesn't love grandma's cooking? Or just stop by and chat. Add to that list college friends and coworkers and my life starts getting full. Not to mention school students, work, and my ministry students, now my life is really full. Did I mention the cutest 2 year old that I babysit from time to time... No, well let me say this little boy has stolen my heart forever. :) So when people assume I'm missing something because I'm single, I think of all the people I'm able to shower with attention, all the ministry opportunities I have. All this couldn't happen if I was involved in a romantic relationship. Things would definitely be different, and I'm not quite sure I'm ready for that. The Lord has given me a passion for encouraging others as well as showering them with attention. (You would be surprised how many people are looking for someone willing to listen to them.) Because of this passion, I have a very full life serving those around me. Don't get me wrong there are days when I do feel that gap in my life, but then I remember that Jesus can fulfill every need I have, including this one. I just have to be patient and rely on Him.
Relying on Him doesn't mean I've given up. It just means I am allowing Him to work in my life. Daily, I remind myself to surrender my romantic life to Him and thank Him for all the great people He has given me. In that prayer, I also ask for my helpmate. Just like I mentioned in the last post, the Lord commands us to ask to receive. I also try to meditate on the following passage.
Psalm 37:4-5
Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Enjoy your life; enjoy the ministry opportunities the Lord puts in front of you when you surrender your life to Him and wait. He'll fulfill all your needs and give you the desires of your heart. All this will happen is His timing and His way. Trust in Him and let me Him lead you. I promise your life will be the better for it. As for me, I have Christmas presents to finish and a choir rehearsal to get to. See ya next time!
How to survive the holidays as a single person...
Just in case you haven't noticed, the holidays seem to be the time you are asked most often "Why you are still single?" Well, that is unless you work with pre-teens who don't filter their thoughts. If this is the case, you may get asked more often. Just this week a former student, now a ninth grader, couldn't seem to grasp the fact that I was still single and told me I needed to get married. Like most people, he seemed to think it was something I could fix quite easily by just getting married... if only.
Marriage and dating are something I would like to take part in, but I'm not settling for just anyone. um... I may even have a list... :) ... I kind of started out as a joke, but then it turned serious. I thought of things I really do want like personality traits or characteristics I would like in a mate. Now, I'm a planner and I know the Lord is probably laughing his head off at my list. However, knowing what I want (and what I believe the Lord wants for me) has helped me not to settle for someone who isn't the ONE the Lord has created for me. As for my list, some things are just plain funny, but when it comes to faith, I know I want a man who can lead the household, spiritually. I've joked with my youth students before and said that I teach children all day and I don't want to come home to a man that I have to teach, too.
In all seriousness, we Christians have to be careful to follow the Lord's lead and not settle for just anyone. Hold true to God's promises and be patient. Now, I know this isn't always easy to hear, especially this time of year. However, if there is one thing I know for sure, His timing is perfect and you wouldn't want to interfere with the great things He has planned for you. I have to keep reminding myself of this very fact; especially when I'm tempted to take matters into my own hands.
How do I do it? How do I survive this time of year as a single?
For starters, don't look at yourself and see something (or someone) missing. You have plenty of people in your life that want to love you, and I'm sure there are some waiting on some love themselves. I start with my family. I have two little sisters that I have been mothering practically from the womb. I've always been the bossy big sister, just ask them... :) Being single allows me to spend extra time with them by having girl nights, traveling with them, and making them feel special. As for the rest of my family, parents and grandparents get lots of loving from me too! I have the free time to drop by and have dinner; who doesn't love grandma's cooking? Or just stop by and chat. Add to that list college friends and coworkers and my life starts getting full. Not to mention school students, work, and my ministry students, now my life is really full. Did I mention the cutest 2 year old that I babysit from time to time... No, well let me say this little boy has stolen my heart forever. :) So when people assume I'm missing something because I'm single, I think of all the people I'm able to shower with attention, all the ministry opportunities I have. All this couldn't happen if I was involved in a romantic relationship. Things would definitely be different, and I'm not quite sure I'm ready for that. The Lord has given me a passion for encouraging others as well as showering them with attention. (You would be surprised how many people are looking for someone willing to listen to them.) Because of this passion, I have a very full life serving those around me. Don't get me wrong there are days when I do feel that gap in my life, but then I remember that Jesus can fulfill every need I have, including this one. I just have to be patient and rely on Him.
Relying on Him doesn't mean I've given up. It just means I am allowing Him to work in my life. Daily, I remind myself to surrender my romantic life to Him and thank Him for all the great people He has given me. In that prayer, I also ask for my helpmate. Just like I mentioned in the last post, the Lord commands us to ask to receive. I also try to meditate on the following passage.
Psalm 37:4-5
Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Enjoy your life; enjoy the ministry opportunities the Lord puts in front of you when you surrender your life to Him and wait. He'll fulfill all your needs and give you the desires of your heart. All this will happen is His timing and His way. Trust in Him and let me Him lead you. I promise your life will be the better for it. As for me, I have Christmas presents to finish and a choir rehearsal to get to. See ya next time!
Monday, November 12, 2012
Season... really?
So, I realize the title is a little cheesy, but let's face it... We've all hoped that this thing called singleness is just a phase or season that we are going to pass through. Until a few weeks ago, I didn't realize that I'm approaching the ten year mark of my season of singleness. Oh no, I let the cat out of the bag!!! I don't usually throw this out in casual conversation for fear someone will see it as their duty to set me up with someone. However, I tell you now so that you understand I'm not someone to be pitied or adored. I'm just an average young woman trying to follow God's will and live my life accordingly.
Through this blogging journey I hope you understand that you are not walking this path alone and that there are plenty of people willing to support you. I'm going to be walking through a book by one of my favorite authors - Leslie Ludy. Whether you are single, married, or whatever, Leslie has a way of speaking to you in a plain and blunt way that gets through. I would recommend her and her husband's books to anyone (Eric Ludy). They are quite the couple and have an awesome love story only God could pen.
So now that I have stopped gushing over Leslie, let me tell you about "Sacred Singleness". This is a phrase Leslie uses as well as the title of one of her books. While most of us don't want to go there, singleness is a time to cherish and grow in the Lord. More importantly, we should be focused on growing in the Lord instead of attracting the next hot guy who is going to follow us around for a few weeks before he moves on to the next hot thing. Many Christian and non-christians miss the mark completely, thinking they can just live a good life and God is going to give them the perfect significant other and the perfect little house and family. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, it doesn't quite work like that for everyone.
Now you could be like my sister, instant attraction to Mr. Right... engaged in less than three months, wedding in under a year. Sometimes things do just fall into place and work to the benefit of those who trust in the Lord. Don't get me wrong, my sister and her fiance both have weathered the various storms of life and worked hard to become the individuals they are today. But for some of us, we work hard for the Lord everyday, trying to trust Him, waiting patiently (sometimes) for Him to lead and at the end of the day, we're still asking the Lord to send us our helpmate.
If there is anything I've learned from my ten years, it is never stop asking. In Matthew 7:7 the Bible says, "Ask and you will receive, Seek and you will find, Knock and the door will be opened to you." So, whether your singleness last a few weeks, months, or years, never stop asking for the desires of your heart. The Lord wants to give us those desires; however, we need to trust that his plans are better than ours. Tonight I'm going to close with probably the most quoted verse to our generation.
Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Remember you are not walking this journey alone, the Lord is with us every step of the way. Be a strong Godly woman, asking the Lord for the desires of your heart, but listening for His guidance.
Through this blogging journey I hope you understand that you are not walking this path alone and that there are plenty of people willing to support you. I'm going to be walking through a book by one of my favorite authors - Leslie Ludy. Whether you are single, married, or whatever, Leslie has a way of speaking to you in a plain and blunt way that gets through. I would recommend her and her husband's books to anyone (Eric Ludy). They are quite the couple and have an awesome love story only God could pen.
So now that I have stopped gushing over Leslie, let me tell you about "Sacred Singleness". This is a phrase Leslie uses as well as the title of one of her books. While most of us don't want to go there, singleness is a time to cherish and grow in the Lord. More importantly, we should be focused on growing in the Lord instead of attracting the next hot guy who is going to follow us around for a few weeks before he moves on to the next hot thing. Many Christian and non-christians miss the mark completely, thinking they can just live a good life and God is going to give them the perfect significant other and the perfect little house and family. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, it doesn't quite work like that for everyone.
Now you could be like my sister, instant attraction to Mr. Right... engaged in less than three months, wedding in under a year. Sometimes things do just fall into place and work to the benefit of those who trust in the Lord. Don't get me wrong, my sister and her fiance both have weathered the various storms of life and worked hard to become the individuals they are today. But for some of us, we work hard for the Lord everyday, trying to trust Him, waiting patiently (sometimes) for Him to lead and at the end of the day, we're still asking the Lord to send us our helpmate.
If there is anything I've learned from my ten years, it is never stop asking. In Matthew 7:7 the Bible says, "Ask and you will receive, Seek and you will find, Knock and the door will be opened to you." So, whether your singleness last a few weeks, months, or years, never stop asking for the desires of your heart. The Lord wants to give us those desires; however, we need to trust that his plans are better than ours. Tonight I'm going to close with probably the most quoted verse to our generation.
Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Remember you are not walking this journey alone, the Lord is with us every step of the way. Be a strong Godly woman, asking the Lord for the desires of your heart, but listening for His guidance.
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