How to survive the holidays as a single person...

             My second post has been a long time in coming but not for lack of ideas. Over the last several weeks I have been sifting through my thought trying to decide what to pen, but nothing seemed quite right. This morning it hit me, right in the middle of a lazy saturday morning crocheting a Christmas present. 

             How to survive the holidays as a single person...
             Just in case you haven't noticed, the holidays seem to be the time you are asked most often "Why you are still single?" Well, that is unless you work with pre-teens who don't filter their thoughts. If this is the case, you may get asked more often. Just this week a former student, now a ninth grader, couldn't seem to grasp the fact that I was still single and told me I needed to get married. Like most people, he seemed to think it was something I could fix quite easily by just getting married... if only. 
            Marriage and dating are something I would like to take part in, but I'm not settling for just anyone. um... I may even have a list... :) ... I kind of started out as a joke, but then it turned serious.  I thought of things I really do want like personality traits or characteristics I would like in a mate. Now, I'm a planner and I know the Lord is probably laughing his head off at my list. However, knowing what I want (and what I believe the Lord wants for me) has helped me not to settle for someone who isn't the ONE the Lord has created for me. As for my list, some things are just plain funny, but when it comes to faith, I know I want a man who can lead the household, spiritually. I've joked with my youth students before and said that I teach children all day and I don't want to come home to a man that I have to teach, too. 
           In all seriousness, we Christians have to be careful to follow the Lord's lead and not settle for just anyone. Hold true to God's promises and be patient. Now, I know this isn't always easy to hear, especially this time of year. However, if there is one thing I know for sure, His timing is perfect and you wouldn't want to interfere with the great things He has planned for you. I have to keep reminding myself of this very fact; especially when I'm tempted to take matters into my own hands. 
          
           How do I do it? How do I survive this time of year as a single?
           For starters, don't look at yourself and see something (or someone) missing. You have plenty of people in your life that want to love you, and I'm sure there are some waiting on some love themselves. I start with my family. I have two little sisters that I have been mothering practically from the womb. I've always been the bossy big sister, just ask them... :) Being single allows me to spend extra time with them by having girl nights, traveling with them, and making them feel special. As for the rest of my family, parents and grandparents get lots of loving from me too! I have the free time to drop by and have dinner; who doesn't love grandma's cooking? Or just stop by and chat. Add to that list college friends and coworkers and my life starts getting full. Not to mention school students, work, and my ministry students, now my life is really full. Did I mention the cutest 2 year old that I babysit from time to time... No, well let me say this little boy has stolen my heart forever. :) So when people assume I'm missing something because I'm single, I think of all the people I'm able to shower with attention, all the ministry opportunities I have. All this couldn't happen if I was involved in a romantic relationship. Things would definitely be different, and I'm not quite sure I'm ready for that. The Lord has given me a passion for encouraging others as well as showering them with attention. (You would be surprised how many people are looking for someone willing to listen to them.) Because of this passion, I have a very full life serving those around me. Don't get me wrong there are days when I do feel that gap in my life, but then I remember that Jesus can fulfill every need I have, including this one. I just have to be patient and rely on Him. 
          Relying on Him doesn't mean I've given up. It just means I am allowing Him to work in my life. Daily, I remind myself to surrender my romantic life to Him and thank Him for all the great people He has given me. In that prayer, I also ask for my helpmate. Just like I mentioned in the last post, the Lord commands us to ask to receive. I also try to meditate on the following passage. 
         Psalm 37:4-5

Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

         Enjoy your life; enjoy the ministry opportunities the Lord puts in front of you when you surrender your life to Him and wait. He'll fulfill all your needs and give you the desires of your heart. All this will happen is His timing and His way. Trust in Him and let me Him lead you. I promise your life will be the better for it. As for me, I have Christmas presents to finish and a choir rehearsal to get to. See ya next time!